Steven D. Tholen, age 66 of St. Francis, died January 14, 2021 at Mercy Hospital in Coon Rapids. There will be a public visitaion from 2 – 6:00 P.M. on Monday, January 18th with a PRIVATE service at 6:00 P.M. at Strike Life Tributes in Isanti.
Steven David Tholen was born May 28, 1954 in Minneapolis to Wilbert and Carol (Snyder) Tholen, Jr. His family moved several times when he was young and then he attended Minneapolis South High School. Steve married Anna Ingalls on October 24, 1975 in Minneapolis and they made their home there. Steve attended Minneapolis Technical College from 1992 – 1994. He was employed as a computer technician. The family moved to St. Francis in 1995 where they have since made their home. Steve especially enjoyed family, grandchildren and all of the family activities. He was an outdoor person who loved nature and just sitting in the sun. He loved his music and really enjoyed anything to do with the super natural.
Steve died January 14, 2021 at Mercy Hospital in Coon Rapids at the age of 66 years. He is survived by his wife, Anna; 3 children, Melissa Haroldson (Jon Hams), Christina Tholen (Randy Emon), Steven (Felina) Tholen, Jr.; 8 grandchildren, Brent, Jordan, Alena, Brandon, Graycee, Hayden, Avery and Jaxson; 1 great-granddaughter on the way; sister, Mary Tholen; his faithful dog, Zoey; and many other relatives and friends.
Besides his parents he was preceded in death by 2 grandchildren, Reiley and Jacob; 2 sisters, Kay and Sue.
Steve, you were my rock, my best friend, my everything. I dont know how I will go on without you. You were always the strong one. Now I guess I have to step up and try to be strong. Its going to be tough. I love you so very much and I will miss you for the rest of my life. I will try to take over your roll now and take care of our family. RIP Steve. I love you. Say hi to everyone up there in heaven for me.💔💔💔💔
I just want to say thank you for always being there for me and my family. You were my father, my hero and my best friend. Since as far back as I can remember I looked to you for guidance in so many different ways and you never steered me wrong. You were like a father to my kids and all of your grandchildren and I know they will all miss you so much. You were the smartest person I knew and I wanted to be like you in every aspect. I got my taste in music and movies from you. I just hope you were proud of the man I am today. I will always love you and not a second will go by for the rest of my life that I wont be thinking of you. Thank you for everything Dad and I love you.
Steve, never did i think I’d roam this earth as the last child of Carol and Wilbert Jr Tholen. You were the strong one Steve. I can’t nor do i want to feel the pain that your wife,kids and grandkids are feeling, The last time we hugged was this past summer, ohhh what I’d give to get another one, i was thankful for the ability to text, it was the next best thing to being there with you guys. Steve please with the help of reiley and Jacob please wrap your arms around anna, the kids and the grandkids and protect them.
You weren’t just my brother you were my dad… there is such a void in my heart brother that will never be filled. Please kiss mom, dad,kay,sue and Desiree for me.., like you…..they are missed everyday. Love you more…lil sis 💔💔
Dad, I want to thank you for the great life you have created for our whole family. You were the glue that made sure we all stuck together. You played such a huge role in not only my life but my kids lives as well! You were the best dad, husband and grandfather! You won’t be here for your first great grand daughter but in spirit I know you and Reiley and Jacob will be there to hand Jordan and Tayler their first baby girl! Please give Reiley the biggest hug and kiss please take care of him for me please! Please visit us often as we will never forget the greatest guy in our lives! Reiley visits me often in dreams…. please do the same for us! I love you so much!
Steve, it is with a heavy and saddened heart that I pay tribute today. Although not a member of your beautiful family, I was honored to be a member of your MultiTech family. We will miss you very much. My prayers are with your wife, children and grandchildren as this very sad time.
To Steven’s family, I am so sadden and sorry for your loss. The Multi-Tech family is going to miss Steven so much. For the longest time I remember talking to Steven about so many different topics. I would go into his cubical and start off on some work related item and then the conversation would turn into something else, then that would go off in a completely different direction and so. Before we knew it half an hour or more had gone by. Since the COVID restrictions those conversations were less because he was working from home, but when he did have an issue with his computer he would call me up and help him and we would briefly talk. I am going to miss his humor and wisdom and his stories. He truly was one of a kind.
Steve’s friends at MultiTech will miss his humor and his stories. Steve had a knack for handling interesting phone calls at work but he was very good with people over the phone and helped so many every day. I’m glad that he was able to make the JFK tour and share his thoughts on various conspiracies. I will miss my conversations with him.
Although my wife and I have known Steve for almost four years, he managed to find a home in our hearts. We will always remember him as kindhearted, cheerful person. His positive attitude just radiated out of him. He did have to say much. His presence was enough to make you smile. It was evident just how much he loved his family. I remember how often he would sit in the swing in the front yard with his baby grandson on his chest and rock him with enjoyment.
Although grief fills our hearts with sorrow for the loss so great, yet at the same time we rejoice with heaven as they welcome him home. Our prayers go out for Anna and all the loved ones for peace and comfort that only God can give beyond anything our mere words can express.
Today we celebrate Steve’s life on this Earth as we wish him “Farewell” to the life without end in heaven.
Dear Anna, Melissa, Christina, Steven Jr. and Families, I’m very sorry for your loss. I know you were all the most important thing in Steve’s life. It’s been a couple years since I spoke with Steve, but for many years before that (when I was at MTS) I spoke with him often. He was always straight forward, no nonsense and humble. He always mentioned something about his family, how much enjoyment he got out of being with you, helping you, and all the other things, simple or challenging, that come with having a family. Please find comfort and strength in knowing he will never be gone from your heart and will always be a part of you. His spirit lives on within you. May God continue to bless you.
To Steve’s Family; let me express my sincere and heartfelt sympathy for your loss.
Steve is someone that I considered more than just a co-worker, I considered him a friend.
I had many deep conversations with Steve on many different topics.
He had an inane sense of wisdom about him and was well versed on many subjects.
We would talk about music and also shared some life stories.
I remember one time he got such a bad sunburn in Florida that his skin was still peeling even after he got back to Minnesota.
The last time I spoke with him, I mused about the crazy times that we are living in.
His advice was simple but wise; to cherish every day with your family and loved ones.
I have an amusing anecdote that I would like to share;
My wife and I were at Costco and I noticed that Steve and Anna were also there doing some shopping.
Anna was looking at some frozen food and Steve was kind of leaning on one of the freezer chests.
I very stealthily wheeled my cart over and then ran into Steve’s cart pretty hard(as a joke of course).
He slowly turned towards me and then kind of grinned and said “oh, its’ you Olson”.
We had a laugh and I asked him what was going through his mind and he replied;
“I was just wondering who it was that was going to get punched!”.
I will miss him.
Our thoughts and prayers are with Anna and the kids. I loved seeing Steve playing catch with his dog and walking and sitting Anna and the kids would come and they would just hang out. It was beautiful to see. We are so sorry for your loss and pain. THOLEN family. Lots of love, your neighbors Mike, Belinda and Arianna Carlson.
My thoughts and prayers are with all of you whos lives where touched by Steve.
Before the covid thing I would always get some extra enjoyment out of going to work knowing I would get harassed or get to harass Steve that day. I worked directly with Steve for many years, what a pleasure it was . I will miss the endless conversations we had , mostly about family. He was so proud of his family, you could always see that as he told stories about them.
I talked to Steve the morning he ended up in the hospital. A customer had written a review praising his professionalism and how helpful he was, So I passed it on to him. I asked which of his family members wrote him the ataboy. He told me he paid someone to write it. (He always said I was just doing my Job) maybe that is why he was so good at it.
I will also miss Steve greatly.
Anna and Family,
My deepest condolences.
Steve was an excellent friend and co-worker and always had a story to tell, time to talk or a song to listen to! I hope he is finding answers to all the conspiracy (or not) theories that he always discussed.
Steve will be deeply missed by all who knew him.
May your memories of Steve live on forever.
Sincerely,
Mike McNeil
See you on the other side Steve. I know; that you know. Rest in peace.